“We are too different” – this is how recent lovers often explain divorce. Bear and I decided to formulate our values and then compare them. To understand what my values are in life, I found on the Internet a list of several hundred different values \u200b\u200bof people, so that it would be convenient to choose the right ones.
Here are some values that could be:
Uniqueness
Team
mindfulness
Ease
Significance
Leisure
Jewelry
Satisfaction
Education
Caution
Joy
Career
Logics
Reliability
habits
Management
Celebrity
Justice
Sport
Contribution
Status
diligence
Astonishment
Definition
Traditions
Humility
State
Balance
Honesty
close
Competition
Inspiration
Grace
Things
Activity
Agility
Capabilities
Wednesday
Mastery
Pleasure
Strength
Capital
Comfort
Entertainment
Depth
Harmony
Reflections
Independence
Separation
Prosperity
Mind
Restraint
Ancestors
Ferocity
Uncertainty
technicality
Thoroughness
Benefit
industriousness
Professionalism
Commitment
Competence
Success
Vocation
Naturalness
Wealth
Control
Sensuality
Proximity
Superiority
freedom
Possession
Simplicity
calmness
care
playfulness
Intuitiveness
Adoption
World
Efficiency
purposefulness
Rules
Structure
Imagination
Passion
Quality
Prank
Charity
Character
Study
organization
Loyalty
Fun
Tolerance
Devotion
Sympathy
recoil
purpose
Creativity
Hobby
Content
Insight
Understanding
Delegation
ambition
Wholeness
legality
Courage
Strength
foresight
Energy
Aesthetics
Business
Expansion
Forgiveness
Assets
Unity
Fearlessness
Vision
Conviction
Curiosity
Community
Flexibility
Profitability
Purchases
Surprise
Cleanliness
ethics
Risk
Cooperation
House
Accuracy
Respect
Mastery
Fitness
Investments
win
Globality
Independence
Wisdom
An experience
Analysis
Knowledge
Rivalry
Control
Hope
non-standard
Service
domination
Making sense
Happiness
Frankness
Birth
grooming
Update
Own
Enterprise
Greatness
traditional
Growth
Space
Innovation
Enthusiasm
Genius
Sincerity
Novelty
Demand
Development
Games
Acquisition
Meaning
Safety
Fan
Optimism
Emotions
Valor
Fame
naturalness
Being
Significance
True
A business
Ambition
Kindness
Friendship
Tolerance
jump
fundamentality
Understanding
Motivation
Potential
Moderation
Triumph
donation
Skills
Entrepreneurship
appeasement
gradualism
Improvement
Church
Courage
Call
Communication
Self confidence
Spouse
Books
Inflexibility
Individuality
Vigilance
Stability
Income
Confidence
Personal growth
Talent
Prestige
creation
Relatives
Generosity
Fortitude
integrity
focus
Speed
infinity
thoughtfulness
well-being
Mobility
Careful
Serenity
Delight
Awareness
Care
inner fire
Maturity
Concentration
Art
Determination
Intensity
Performance
Intelligence
Children
Achievement
Silence
Creation
Philosophy
Cognition
autonomy
Leadership
Truth
Art
Power
Drive
Benefit
nobility
Imitation
Spontaneity
wishes
Altruism
Space
Target
Strength of mind
naturalness
Common sense
the beauty
Awe
Environmental friendliness
God
Opening
Transparency
self-education
Politeness
Loneliness
Frankness
Luxury
A responsibility
Dignity
culture
outrageous
Asceticism
Endurance
Support
Acceleration
Affiliation
Victory
Discipline
Cheerfulness
Confidence
expressiveness
Accountability
Humor
Subsequence
Money
Attentiveness
Equality
Honour
You can come up with your own values that are not on the list.
Then I went through the list and wrote down all the values that seemed close to me. Got 10 pieces. Then I sorted them from most important to least important. That’s what I did:
- Freedom (to do what I want, communicate with whom I like, wake up when I want);
- Independence (to solve your own problems the way you like, self-employment, be able to provide for yourself and pay your bills);
- Sincerity (say what you think, be real yourself);
- Reliability (so that you can rely on if a thing works for a long time, it works properly and is made with high quality);
- Lightness (lightness of being, easy attitude to life and oneself, not to worry and not to bother, to learn how to do things professionally and without any extra effort);
- Comfort (clean comfortable toilet and bath, pleasant surroundings, so that the atmosphere is pleasing to the eye, the surrounding people are pleasant to talk to);
- Analysis (the study of life, philosophical knowledge, comparison of data, search for patterns, visualization of graphics);
- House (the presence of your own housing, roots, arrangement of your town);
- Calmness (calm the nerves and reduce stress, live in harmony, be confident in the future);
- Cleanliness (maintaining the environment and oneself in order).
Me myself is a little shocked by my values. The first thing that came to my mind when I saw the list of concepts that were important to me was “what a boring person I am”! Still not knowing what values my boyfriend would choose, I thought that two points would coincide with him: freedom and sincerity. Imagine my surprise when we compared our lists! It’s just incredible. Judge for yourself how we can be together for the 17th year.
It turned out that the Bear and I agree on something important, which allows us to understand each other and be happy together. I think that it is very important for a couple to have an intersection in values in their views of the world, otherwise your worldview may come into conflict, which will begin to destroy relationships. If you look at yourself without being tied to love affairs, then values reveal a personal essence. I suddenly realized why it is important for me to be able to get enough sleep and work for myself. Why do I attach great importance to a clean toilet and a beautiful environment in the house, etc.
Do you already know your current values?
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